Christmas could affect our mental health in lots of different ways. This could be if Christmas is part of your life, or if it’s happening around you. It’s a time of year that often puts extra pressure on us.
Christmas could affect your mental health if you:
*Wish you didn’t have to deal with Christmas, or find it stressful because of other events in your life
*Feel alone or left out because everyone else seems happy when you’re not
*Feel frustrated by other people’s views of a ‘perfect’ Christmas, if these feel different to your experiences
*Have ideas about what Christmas should be like, feel as if you need to enjoy it or worry something will disrupt it
*Feel like Christmas gives you something to focus on and look forward to, and find it difficult when it’s over
*Look back at difficult memories, regret things about the past, or worry about the coming new year
*Feel overlooked, for example if you celebrate other religious festivals or holidays that get less attention
Want to celebrate with someone who’s struggling
If you live with mental health problems, there may be other reasons that you find Christmas tough. For example:
Your mental health problem might make it difficult for you to spend Christmas how you want.
Some experiences during Christmas could make your mental health worse, or harder to manage. For example, if it triggers hypomania or mania.
You might not be able to access services that normally help, if they’re closed during the Christmas period.
Your usual routines may be disrupted, which might make it harder to manage your mental health.
What can I do to get through Christmas?
If Christmas is a hard time for you, it’s important to remember that you are not alone. There are things you can try that might help, such as:
*Looking after yourself
*Be gentle and patient with yourself. It might help to think about what’s best for your wellbeing during Christmas, and prioritise what you need.
*Remind yourself that it won’t last forever. You could set a ‘start’ and ‘finish’ time for what you count as Christmas.
*Set your boundaries. Try to say no to things that aren’t helpful for you.
*Let yourself experience your own feelings. Even if they don’t match what’s going on around you, they’re still valid. For example, if you don’t feel like celebrating Christmas when everyone else does.
*Take time out. Do something to forget that it’s Christmas or distract yourself. For example, you could watch a film or read a book that’s set in the summer. Or you could try learning a new skill.
*Let yourself have the things you need. For example, if you need to take a break instead of doing an activity, or need a little bit of quiet time.